A season for squabbles
“There has been a stream of grace that has been opened and is flowing in time and throughout history. … it is affecting people all over the planet…if we open our heart to Him.” (Dr. Timothy O’Donnell, Tidings of Great Joy)
Squabbling over the small stuff. Thinking my way is the best way. Arguing because Aunt Sally insists on bringing the yucky Jello dessert every year to Thanksgiving even though you tell her no one wants it, and there’s no room for it with all the other food to serve. (Knowing, of course, if she were bringing a dessert everyone loved that somehow room would be made to serve it).
Then many people begin to decorate for Christmas inside and out. For some reason, what worked just fine last year, and every year before it, isn’t good enough this year and someone decides they need a change. And the arguing begins, lasting right up until Christmas itself.
This even carries over to the church as plans are laid for decor and liturgies. Sometimes ministries who are supposed to be in service to the Church begin to lord over it…
“…in the normal course of Providence, we shall be protected from vainglory by the cost in humiliation that witnessing to a Holy life inevitably brings.”
(Servant of God Fr. John Hardon SJ)
It is supposed to be a season of Thanksgiving that leads into the Season of Giving, giving of ourselves as God has given of Himself to us in Jesus. The advent, arrival, of Christ; a “coming into being” as defined by Webster. What better birthday present could we give to Jesus than to give up our need to have everything ‘our way’, or to be ‘right’? Remember how pleased God is when we give up something not because we have to, but because we want to?
And, of course, God permits the squabbles hoping we’ll learn something about ourselves and Him; if nothing else, that His patience is infinite! Perhaps each Advent could become a season of learning and growing. A simple examen for the ‘should-of’’ thoughts (he should have done this) or the “I” statements (I don’t see why we can’t do what I want) could bring a soul cleanse better than anything available online or on the shelf at the pharmacy. There are only two standards—God’s and Satan’s—and it’s easy to see who is really behind these moments. If love is missing, it isn’t of God, no matter how ‘right’ it seems.
Advent is a time to make room for God in the soul by cleaning ‘house’ first! Where to start?
- Sign up for a free e-book to journal through the Advent season. And for a $20 donation to the ministries of the Avila Foundation, you will receive a beautiful printed copy of the book! Get your free e-book at https://spiritualdirection.com/prayer-journal-cye2024
- In Tidings of Great Joy, Dr. Timothy O’Donnell give a fascinating talk about the time period leading up to the Incarnation of Christ. He helps us understand what the people of the times (Jews, Greeks and Romans) were thinking and expecting. “The emperor of China is questioning his sages: what is that luminous light in the sky and what does it mean? “The sages tell the Chinese emperor: this is the great star signifying the birth of the great saint of the west whose religion would one day come to their country.” Wow, the whole world was awaiting a Messiah! https://instituteofcatholicculture.org/events/tidings-of-great-joy
- Or, take one of the many free online retreats provided by Regnum Christi Spirituality, beginning with “The Cause of our Joy” https://www.regnumchristi.com/en/event/the-cause-of-our-joy/
- Or Journey Through Advent with daily short videos from the experts at the St. Paul Center https://stpaulcenter.com/advent
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And for adults who suffered the divorce of their parents, Life-Giving Wounds is offering daily Advent meditations https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCdW0JaHR-70uzBo8_GkrqDA and a free webinar on December 18 on the Heart of Jesus https://www.lifegivingwounds.org/adventwebinar2024
‘Love above everything the glory of God. May God, infinitely good, be the aim of your words, your thoughts, and your actions.’
(St. Ignatius of Loyola)
In love for the Glory of God, happy Thanksgiving!
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